Image Expert + You = Better Dating #AMA

JJ
Aug 3, 2018

If you were to launch a product or business, you have to plan on marketing that product to the appropriate target audience, right? Yes! Because you know the goal is to build a brand that naturally resonates with customers.

Surprisingly, that does not actually happen naturally.

You have seen this in your professional life and as a consumer. You know that branding works. And you know that it never happens overnight and it never happens in a vacuum. The most sublime, subtle, quite brands have expended tremendous energy, money, and creativity in cultivating their look and feel.

Why would you spend any less time cultivating and sharing your authentic self when looking for the love of your life?

I am a media and public relations expert by trade and for years my friends and I (guys and girls) have applied my marketing, branding, media, and communications experience to our dating lives. We have lots of stories! We call them Cock Tales. It has been a rollercoaster of marriages, divorces, affairs, break-ups, heartbreak, love, laughter, fun, great sex, horrible sex, silly sex, and lots and lots of first dates. 

My advice has always been based on my business experience in working for public relations firms, for corporate communications teams, and in consulting with over 100 small business clients.

Blame it on my MBA, but I know match-making takes both the art of human interaction and the science of experience to work. Yes, even your soul mate needs some PR sparkle to get things started and a great coach can help you believe in yourself and thrive in the dating world!

I help clients by using my digital marketing expertise to guide their online presence - from photos to words, to the overall presentation to actual in-person events. 

Image Dating Coach is about understanding that “winning isn’t everything” and dating is not a game. I will work with you to put in place a helpful process to get through the technology and sometimes silly or stressful parts of dating while understanding what motivates you to connect with others or to find The One.

I am super glad you are here. I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message. And thanks for being part of this AMA. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Happy Dating!

Love,

JJ

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What would you tell a woman who thinks loving a man is giving him power over her?
Aug 9, 5:25AM EDT0

Your question makes me sad. 

I would tell a woman or man who is afraid of losing all their power to a lover to see an experienced therapist.

Here’s the thing, you do give up some power in a relationship. For example, I used to have the power to have sex with anyone I wanted to. Now that I’m in a committed relationship, I’ve given up that power. The difference is my fiancé has given that up too.  And we do so joyfully and willingly. Both of us are extremely grateful for the fact that we have another chance at love.

So power will shift throughout a relationship.  I guess the question would be: Do you love somebody who is willing to give up some power to love you back and is it equal.

Most of the stuff I talk about is branding related and fun and it’s based on business marketing science.

What you’re talking about is deep psychological questions that need to be addressed by a professional counselor.

 If anyone is questioning losing themselves in love don’t even bother updating your profile. Instead, do the hard work of becoming you so that when you do come back to dating you can have a good time doing it.

Thanks so much for being here.  I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness!

JJ

Last edited @ Aug 10, 4:54PM EDT.
Aug 9, 11:17AM EDT0
Do you offer consultation sessions on image improvement for purposes other than dating? How can you help someone that is looking for a job?
Aug 8, 3:44AM EDT0

Yes! Great question! I think we just launched a new business! 

I am actually surprised by how few people ask for help in that area. We live in a Do-It-Yourself world and everyone just Googles "Professional Image" and that's that.

I would love to give you feedback, so message me and we can chat.

Until then, basically it is the same ideas, but with a professional feel..

  1. Use professional photos
  2. Use professional words
  3. Tell professional stories

Building publicity and implementing visibility programs for entrepreneurs, small businesses is what I do as my day job. I help small businesses guide their online presence - from photos to words, to the overall presentation to actual in-person events. I pitch entrepreneurs PR services all the time and they're like, "Nah, I got this."

The problem is I've seen their online profile and nope, they don't got it.

Same with dating, but ideally, I'll get invited to more weddings if I have dating clients. 

I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message. 

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Last edited @ Aug 9, 1:34AM EDT.
Aug 8, 3:20PM EDT0
What are a few common mistakes you see people make while dating?
Aug 8, 3:12AM EDT0

Mel: Thank you for this question! I may have said this in a prior answer so I will be short and sweet. In relation to online dating profiles there are three common mistakes:

  1. Bad photos (or no photos)
  2. Random or rambling bios
  3. Negativity and not saying what you want

Now, WHILE actually dating, there are a million mistakes. 

I see men who are emotionally closed off because they are terrified of being used or tricked. They have all of their defenses up and it backfires. Maybe they haven't done the work yet or maybe they are really scared, but either way, being defensive is a mistake.

I see women who are too bossy and mean. I think we can all work on being more cheerful and kind, even when men make tiny mistakes. I see women who are all about the money and it makes them ugly. 

The biggest mistake is thinking you have all the answers or that you know how it is all going to work out. 

A healthy amount of curiosity and flexibility is useful in dating. 

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Aug 8, 3:59PM EDT0
What are the best dating sites and apps that you have used?
Aug 8, 1:25AM EDT0

Great question and I have been dreading this because I cannot lie!

I love Tinder and I hate Bumble. Match works as does e-Harmony and several others. Meet Mindful was like Tinder light to me. I like narrow websites for experienced daters or daters who have specific non-negotiable criteria, (i.e. religion, age or race.) But for the general population, I like the easy sites.

I think everyone should try the free ones, but I can also see the advantages of the memberships that are offered.

I met my long-time boyfriend on OK Cupid and I met my fiance on Tinder. I had a great experience and I think others can too.

But with any site, we have to remember that it is a tool. Junk in = junk out. There is no, "If you build it they will come." No magic bullet or super secret society that is going to get you better dates. You have to get yourself better dates. Or ask me to help.

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Aug 8, 3:54PM EDT0
In a previous answer, you said women should not take advice from their girlfriends, what are the reasons for your answer?
Aug 7, 8:42AM EDT0

Hi Dennis: I will go back and qualify that statement: MOST women should not take advice from MOST of their girlfriends. My friends should take advice from me, for sure! :)

I'll tell you a story about my best friend, Sunshine. She is just that, a ray of sunshine in my life and in the world. She is super tall and long and super blonde (naturally) and light and smiley and full of positive cheer. She swishes into a room, almost floating, and everything changes. I love being next to her. If we were in kindergarten, I would tell everyone we were twins, but opposite.

She was raised in the south by rich, white, Christians (my description, not hers!) - a southern belle of sorts. She had an idyllic childhood, marrying once after college and is still happily married to the same man. She's never worked outside the home since having kids and is a total domestic diva.

I am tall and tan with dark hair and dark eyes. I was raised in the Portland rain by hippies. I had what I call a nerve-wracking childhood and was a bit of a wreck in my 20s and had been married twice by age 30. 

Sunshine's perfect-on-paper husband is hot, but he's not my type. She loves my fiance but he's not her type. And when it comes to dating, while we want the same things (I call it the white picket fence) we are so different and respond to people so differently that how could she tell me what to do?

She would never try and she is immensely understanding and non-judgemental but when I dated a total d*ck, she didn't really say anything until it ended because I really liked him. She wanted me to be happy and she didn't want to be in the middle had it all worked out.

Good friends are unreliable because they are fiercely protective or fiercely competitive or sometimes completely clueless. Friends are supposed to love you unconditionally and support you relentlessly - especially girlfriends. I believe so strongly in the sisterhood of women. 

However, friends maybe do not understand the technology, or the opposite sex, or your true desires and how they might show up in a mate. You want your friends and family to approve. We would do just about anything to get that approval. It's human nature.

But it's not good for business. And you know where I am going with this... blame it on my MBA, but I know match-making takes both the art of human interaction and the science of experience to work. 

Now if your best friend has a great marriage, ask for her advice. If she has had similar experiences, learn from her experiences. If she is a therapist, she probably has good insight.

But if you are serious about dating well, ask an expert.

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand how I can help.

Coach JJ

Last edited @ Aug 9, 1:37AM EDT.
Aug 8, 3:49PM EDT0
What can be done if there are the differences between the way one perceives oneself and the perception that others have?
Aug 7, 12:59AM EDT0

Ella, great question because this is super important! I touched on it in another answer (see Giant Gums below) but basically, it is really hard to analyze ourselves in any capacity. 

All of that is to say, we think one thing is happening when something else is actually happening. Especially when intense emotions are involved and there is so much at stake.

I tell clients is that in order to build profiles to attract the person that we want, we think like them, not like ourselves. It is like in marketing when a business does customer profiling, which is where an organization attempts to quantify and understand everything about their ideal customer(s) and then builds their marketing around those customers data and demographics.

If you are not finding the results that you want in your dating experiences (and I know it sounds crass to treat your future love as a customer, but...) treat your future love as a customer. 

What does a tall, handsome, confident, successful, banker, from Cincinnati who loves dogs and walks on the beach want?

Some people can do that successfully. The rest of us need someone like me :) 

Which is why I say you need 100 Bad Dates. You have got to get feedback (directly or indirectly) from the people you are attempting to date.

I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message. 

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Aug 8, 3:25PM EDT0
What is the role of self-criticism in the development of one’s image?
Aug 6, 6:19PM EDT0

Paola: It is really hard to analyze ourselves in any capacity. It's like a doctor operating on themselves or a therapist giving themselves advice. Doctors see other doctors and therapists see other therapists because they need someone skilled and objecting.

I routinely ask for feedback professionally and am sometimes surprised by the information I receive.

Once, I thought I was being super calm in a horrid work situation and presenting myself professionally by not responding the sh*t storm and my boss said she had a problem with my RBF (resting bitch face.)

Apparently, when I am trying to look unphased, it comes across wrong. I am not sure the smile I plastered on at every meeting after that was any better, but everyone thought I was happier.

All of that is to say, we think one thing is happening when something else is actually happening. Especially when intense emotions are involved and there is so much at stake.

So, what I tell clients is that in order to build profiles to attract the person that we want, we think like them, not like ourselves. It is like in marketing when a business does customer profiling, which is where an organization attempts to quantify and understand everything about their ideal customer(s) and then builds their marketing around those customers data and demographics.

If you are not finding the results that you want in your dating experiences (and I know it sounds crass to treat your future love as a customer, but...) treat your future love as a customer. What does a tall, handsome, confident, successful, banker, who loves dogs and walks on the beach want?

Some people can do that successfully. The rest of us need someone like me :) 

Also, that's why I say you need 100 Bad Dates. You have got to get feedback (directly or indirectly) from the people you are attempting to date.

Example. I hate my smile. I always have! To me, I have these giant teeth and lots of gums. It's the only thing I truly dislike about my body and when I am laughing in a photo, all I see is GIANT teeth. But guess what? Every male I have ever met online, dated, or been picked up on by has said that I have a beautiful smile. 100% on the smile. Every time. Even strangers will tell me I have a pretty smile when they are not picking up on me. So, I got over it and used photos of me smiling. I trust the data (or the feedback) - not my hang-ups about my gums.

I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message. 

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Aug 8, 3:14PM EDT0
What are the most common mistakes that people make in their online profiles?
Aug 6, 6:01PM EDT0

Thank you for this question! I may have said this in a prior answer so I will be short and sweet:

  1. Bad photos (or no photos)
  2. Random or rambling bios
  3. Negativity and not saying what you want

I am shocked that will all of our modern technology, so many people do not have a decent photo of themselves. Snap a bunch, edit appropriately, and get those pics uploaded. It is super easy. My 11 year old can do it. If you can't or won't post thoughtful photos then maybe dating should not be a priority.

Then I talk about story-telling and the importance of the words that you use. For example, I have a gorgeous, smart client that always used "plays hard / works hard." The problem with that phrase is that it is super masculine and men who like more feminine women might not be attracted to that description. She wants a strong, masculine male who will let her be soft and feminine at home and in their personal life She has a killer career so she does not need to boss her man around. She wants to be pampered. Work hard / play hard does not evoke feelings of soft, sexy, women.

That's just an example and it is complex, but words matter. Especially to women, so the men out there: You have to start writing full sentences with correct grammar and punctuation, especially if you desire a smart, sophisticated, modern woman.

I am also surprised that I see so much negativity! Geez, no one wants to date a Debbie Downer! There is no need to list the fact that you refuse to date alcoholics, womanizers, cheaters and liars. Duh. Literally, no one wants to date those people, so it's unspoken. You don't have to say that you don't want drama or someone who plays games. No one wants that so again, it's assumed. Listing all the things that you don't want does not make you seem powerful, strong, nice or fun. You sound bossy, insecure, and like a party pooper.

I'm not saying put up with those things. I am saying that your bio space is limited and should be treated like sacred ground. Use it wisely or suffer the cosmic consequences.

I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message. 

I help clients by using my digital marketing expertise to help guide their online presence - from photos to words, to the overall presentation to actual in-person events. 

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Aug 8, 2:58PM EDT0
What are some deal-breakers or major turnoffs that men see in women's online dating profiles?
Aug 5, 4:34PM EDT0

Well gosh, I can't speak for all men, but there are three things that keep coming up in my conversations:

  1. Looks
  2. Attitude
  3. Money

So it's not that men want all the looks, attitude, and money, it's women's approaches in those categories. 

Looks are very important to men. (Big surprise, yes?) Unfortunately, women post pictures that do not look like how they normally look every day in real life. We have to post realistic photos. I cannot stress this enough. So many people (men and women) try to oversell on their looks and it backfires because they are older or heavier or sloppier in real life. It does no good to pretend to be something you are not. Yes, post nice pictures but no, do not post great airbrushed photos from 10 years ago. And do not post only face pictures to try to hide your weight or perceived imperfections. Also don't post photos that make you look like a shopaholic, alcoholic, superficial, gold digger. The photo of you in front of a Mercedes makes you look materialistic. Even if it is your car, don't brag. Men want women who are true and making money the priority spoils it for them

The second issue is the attitude. Women seem to need to demean and diminish men from the get-go. We tell them all the things that we don't like about them and then expect him to show up like prince charming. We unleash our unchecked emotions and then can't figure out why they didn't call back. With all of our modern, feminist progress we seem to have taken to dominating men instead of enjoying them. To me, it looks like being weak on the inside so we have to be harsh on the outside to compensate. It makes us ugly.

The last issue is Money (see above.) Women are desperate to have men prove themselves and men seem to think that the way that women want them to do that is through finances. Men feel protective of their resources and feel that women are only after one thing - cold hard cash. Men don't like the idea of being used. You meet the playboys and the players but most men are hard working and want to give you everything, but they live in fear of being taken advantage of.

So what can you do in your profiles?

  1. Post pretty, reasonable photos and work with real self, not against yourself.
  2. Be cheerful and kind, even when men make tiny mistakes (you can be firm if they make huge mistakes.)
  3. Don't be all about the money. Talk about books, and music, and thinks that make you happy that don't hit their pocketbook. 

I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message. 

I help clients by using my digital marketing expertise to help guide their online presence - from photos to words, to the overall presentation to actual in-person events. 

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Aug 6, 12:08AM EDT0
Many dating coaches state that dating is a game, why don’t you agree with them? How would you describe dating?
Aug 5, 3:12PM EDT0

Dating is not a game because there is not a winner nor is there a loser. Dating is about the experience of interacting with other humans — perhaps like a roller coaster ride at an amusement park, but not a game.

However,  there are strategies that can be deployed (rules?) to make the experience better, so in that regard, when people say you have to “play the game” they mean that there are certain things that are going to work better in dating situations.

That’s where I come in. I help clients by using my digital marketing expertise to help guide their online presence - from photos to words, to the overall presentation to actual in-person events. 

I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message. Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

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Aug 5, 8:25PM EDT0
What are your best tips for those trying to have an image boost?
Aug 5, 9:08AM EDT0

Jamie: I always tell people to focus on their pictures, their words, and their stories -those are the essential building blocks of an online personal brand.

I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message. 

I help clients by using my digital marketing expertise to help guide their online presence - from photos to words, to the overall presentation to actual in-person events. 

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Aug 5, 11:46PM EDT0
How should people avoid to have been catfished?
Aug 5, 5:32AM EDT0

Oh yes, the dark side of dating. 

I personally would not date someone that I could not verify in another context. For example, after I met my fiancé I found him on LinkedIn and everything matched. We also had mutual connections on FB. We live in the same town, so it was easy.

I do not suggest carrying on long distance, internet-only relationships. You have to meet in real life. If someone is traveling or lives far away, tell them you would love to connect next time they come to town and then back away slowly. 

The world is full of kind, honest people who want real love. Don’t waste your time on someone who hides behind their computer.

If the information they give you does not add up, then take a break. And you should be dating enough people in real life that it won’t matter if a faker sneaks in because they will be quickly shoved aside in your mind by your awesome, real life dates.

Thanks for being here!

JJ

Last edited @ Aug 5, 8:21PM EDT.
Aug 5, 8:19PM EDT0
What is your biggest fear in the dating world today?
Aug 4, 4:26PM EDT0

I personally don’t have any fears because my fiancé was smart enough to put a ring on it ;)

My fear for the women out there is that they’ll continue putting up with bad behavior and expecting less from men and getting further away from what they really want  because they don’t think there’s anything better out there.

My fear for men is that they will become so isolated behind their technology that they won’t be able to open up and really connect with women and will miss out on finding what they truly desire.

If I can help people to get closer to each other through better personal branding, then that will be my life’s work.

Thanks for being here!

JJ

Last edited @ Aug 4, 9:09PM EDT.
Aug 4, 5:47PM EDT0
A lot of people complain about lousy first dates. If a first date isn't great, should the person get another chance?
Aug 4, 4:50AM EDT0

Nope. 

I know it sounds harsh but I really don’t believe in second chances in this regard. Now a date can be silly, or can go wrong in a way that would be humorous later when you tell the story (for example someone getting lost and ending up taking a back road and being late but still having a great time). 

But lousy? No.

If you buy a product and they’re completely dissatisfied you return it and you likely don’t buy it again. If you go to a restaurant and have a horrible meal you might send it back but you don’t keep going to that restaurant. The idea that we have to waste our time on something that isn’t working is what keeps us trapped in negative dating experiences. If it doesn’t work check it off the list as a great experience and move on.

 Know if all of your dates are lousy then we need to look at the process and understand what the underlying causes are. My  theory is that if you present yourself authentically and brand yourself in a way that attracts your ideal mates you will have better dates.

Thanks for the question.

JJ

Aug 4, 5:43PM EDT0
Based on your professional experience, what are the biggest challenges facing single millennials today?
Aug 4, 4:13AM EDT0

Using the word millennial.

Seriously, I’ve never heard a word so used in abused, especially in marketing! You’re people. You make different buying choices, you prioritize your life differently, you donate and volunteer differently, but you’re young adults and not that different from any other age range.

That being said, with the world at your feet, and technology at your fingertips, I think the biggest challenge in this bleeds into other generations to is having unrealistic expectations or fear of missing out. You can literally meet and date someone from anywhere in the world and having that many options maybe isn’t such a good thing.

I would guess if we were to work together that a lot of our conversations would be around realistic compromises. Yes you can have it all — you just might not have it all in one person.

Thanks for the great question.

JJ

Aug 4, 5:39PM EDT0
What would you recommend to someone who’s struggling with that conflict?
Aug 3, 11:14PM EDT0

Hi there I think you are referring to the last question which was the myth of believing that there are no more good men or no more good women left to date  in the world? 

I would say that if somebody is struggling with that fear then they need to put dating on hold for a while and really do the hard personal work of understanding where that fear comes from and working through it because that fear is going to seep into every conversation you have and it’s going to spoil whatever work you put into dating.

If a business owner comes to me and wants to launch a product and then tells me “but I don’t think anyone’s going to buy it” Then I really can’t spend a lot of time trying to build a marketing plan for them if they don’t believe their product is sellable or they don’t believe there are not any customers interested in that product.

You don’t need 1000 good men or women. You need a few to date and you only need to find one to be in a relationship with. If you don’t believe that somewhere on this planet is one person who would be a good match for you then there’s no amount of public relations that’s going to fix that attitude.

 My job is to help you do such a good job presenting yourself and responding to the “marketplace” that you have a reasonable pool to choose from. I am not a therapist but if you do the hard work on being your best self I can help you present that to the world. 

Thanks for the great question!

JJ

Aug 4, 5:31PM EDT0
Any other any dating myths that readers should know about?
Aug 3, 4:37PM EDT0

Adri, good one. 

Yes.  The thing I hear constantly from men and women is that there are “no good men” or “there are no good women” out there.

Not true.

If all one sees are bad examples of the opposite sex my recommendation is to look in the mirror because it simply isn’t true. 

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Last edited @ Aug 3, 9:07PM EDT.
Aug 3, 9:07PM EDT0
How articulate should people be in expressing their emotions?
Aug 3, 6:00AM EDT0

Short answer: Very.

Medium answer: I am not exactly sure what you are asking but it seems to be along the lines of how should people express themselves when the tough emotions come up while dating?

Long answer: This is hard stuff and I am not a therapist, so you have to do all of the work on you (as best as you can) to get to the point where you are ready for dating. Some people are simply not datable because they are so angry or closed off or bitter. Emotions are great, but if they're all bottled up inside you'll just come across as weird or dramatic.

Emotions can be good or bad and generally, I think the issues come when we freak out about those emotions and then either hold everything in or blurt out a bunch of wildly needy demands.

So your job is to understand and process your emotions.

My job is to help you put words to the situations and responses that happen when dating online that involve your emotions.

I want clients to say what they want, but in the positive without bringing up the past or being accusatory or causing drama.

Let's say honesty has been an issue for a client in the past so he has all of these unchecked, unhappy, unhealthy emotions around honesty, which leads to trust issues. Things that we might create to communicate his fears, hopes, and expectations around honesty (after HE has done the hard work of dealing with himself) are:

  • I like women who are honest.
  • Strong and real and authentic women are what I am attracted to.
  • I function best in a really open, honest relationship.
  • I am super honest and some people do not like that, but some love that about me.
  • If I were to be serious or exclusive or to have sex with someone, I would have to know that they are super honest and trustworthy.

So his emotions around honesty are his to own. My job is to help him communicate that in a few characters online.

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Aug 3, 12:03PM EDT0
What are your top five strategies or tips for a successful date and why?
Aug 3, 12:57AM EDT0

Oh good one. It's like an event and it has a beginning, a middle, and an end.

  1. Set it up ahead of time with a nice ask and a plan. 'Netflix and chill' is great once you're together, but a solid first date will set the tone for the entire experience. It can be spontaneous (like I just won tickets for a concert tonight!) but not crazy.
  2. If you're a dude, be a gentleman. Even modern ladies like it if you try. Don't be weird about it but offer to pick her up and drive. Many women will decline (they want to meet in a safe place, with their own car) but it's nice to ask and a no just means she's careful.
  3. Keep the date light. Horror movies, dramatic plays, interpretive readings - those are great later. You want something that is both entertaining, but not overwhelmingly distracting. Food and drink seem to fit the bill for many people.
  4. Know when and how to end it. A great date could go all night, but the longer it goes, the more chances for the tone to change. Leave on a high note, keep everyone wanting more.
  5. Follow up. One perfect date with a dude that you don't hear from for two weeks is no longer a perfect date. If you want the person to like you, stay engaged. If you can't, say something.

And finally, goodnight kisses. Some people are all in at the get-go, some say no way no matter what. It is not a deal breaker. But my suggestion to men and women is to try the kiss. I'm not saying throw yourself on someone but if after a couple hours you're not even interested in a sweet goodnight kiss, it's probably a pass.

I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message. 

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ

Aug 3, 11:44AM EDT0
What kind of books do you like to read? Anything in romance?
Aug 2, 10:48PM EDT0

Ha. Great question! Thank you so much for asking.

Nope. I greatly dislike Romance and fiction in general. I mostly (almost exclusively) read business books. An occasional historical fiction here and there.

Except I have read the Harry Potter series 4 times - once through for each kid. Those have been my favorites at home with the littles.

Growing up I loved E. B. White and he is probably still my favorite. I read Gone With the Wind and fell in love with words when I was 12. I read Great Expectations every few years and Pride and Prejudice once in a while.

One of my goals in life is to make lots of money, build a big nursery, and spend every day reading to a gaggle of grandchildren. And then when they leave to reread all of the classics.

Thanks for asking! JJ

Aug 3, 11:12AM EDT0
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